Somehow every email I get from FLYlady these days feels like a giant God-smack, forget God-Breeze…
Take today for example:
“When things like this happen it is so easy to allow your emotions to get the best of you. This is why you have to look for the silver lining in every situation. ” FLYlady
*sigh* so what’s my “silver lining”? What good can possibly come from my current situtation? Well, I’m learning to pay more attention to my body and emotions, and their signals. I figured out what my problem was and got the help I needed. I’m treating myself better, with little *treats* just for surviving another day. (IE: IBC Black Cherry Soda, Extra Cookies, M&Ms… Nothing healthy, of course. *S* that wouldn’t be fun! *S*). I’m sleeping more…. Although it’s really cutting into my Tae Bo time.
I don’t know, but I think if the witches would melt away in the next rainstorm I’d consider it a platinum lining… *S*
I thought about this question all afternoon. I finally figured it out.
See, I’ve been looking at the music in the kitchen as a constant reminder that the neighbors can hear me. That reminder has an effect on the way I deal with my kids. I have been calmer, and more controled with them in the last week then I think prolly ever before….
By that I mean, the screaming has always been a problem for me. (See the Angry Mother) I was raised by a screamer… I always swore up and down I wouldn’t do that to my own kids…. yet I do. Because I don’t know how else to deal with them and their antics….
The music in the kitchen is a constant reminder not to yell, and scream, and lose my temper with my kids…. So in a way… my neighbors are merely forcing me to become the mother I always wanted to be. *S*
How’s that for a silver lining?
4 thoughts on “My Silver Lining”
You know, there’s nothing more annoying than some idiot who says “cheer up, there’s a silver lining” when you’re feeling like dog crap. When I’m upset, I don’t need to hear about good things. I don’t need to hear about how it will all be better. Because it is NOT better. I don’t need to hear about other people’s good times, even my own. All I need anyone for is to just be there, not judge me, and not try to fix me. It’s ok to be mad or upset sometimes.
Yea…. I admit, it’s not only annoying, but also a big guilt trip. Like, gee I know I could have handled the situation better… Well, Duh! But for me, personally, I *have* to turn all these bad bad stress points into something good… or I’ll go crazy.. which, for me, is a short trip!
Way to go, finding a silver lining in the bad stuff. I always try to do this too and sometimes it works. I hope you find some peace soon. I remember feeling just a short trip away from a breakdown when my older four were small children. Now that I only have one at home I wonder how I ever did it with more than one.