She goes on to illustrate how a reaction she had to someone else lashing out towards her, and said this:
“I am still lovable, adequate, powerful, accepted, valuable, blameless, and honored. And I have to answer from that point of view. If I answer from the place of pain and hurt, where I believe that I’m unlovable, inadequate, powerless, rejected, worthless, at fault, and useless, then I will lash out in anger or withdraw in depression. Neither of those is going to get me anywhere. When I work from the point of view of my own strength, then I’m able to move the process forward.”
It just makes so much sense. I’ve lost some good friends in the past due to email fights and differing points of view. Maybe, had I responded differently, instead of out of anger, things would be different. Then again, this concept of taking a deep breath and answering from a place of love and self-worth instead of anger and worthlessness can be applied to my daily life. My self-worth should not, and does not, come from how I am seen in the neighborhood. In fact, the whole goal of FLYlady’s system is to FLY – Finally Love Yourself. How can I FLY if I allow other’s words and actions to bring me down?