{"id":42,"date":"2005-07-08T10:21:22","date_gmt":"2005-07-08T18:21:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.yuriar.com\/wp\/?p=42"},"modified":"2005-07-08T10:21:22","modified_gmt":"2005-07-08T18:21:22","slug":"to-vent-or-not-to-vent","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yuriar.com\/katp\/2005\/07\/08\/to-vent-or-not-to-vent\/","title":{"rendered":"to vent, or not to vent?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div>An online buddy recently wrote this to our email list:\u201cSee, when I get upset and rant about something, it usually means that one of my own hurts has been triggered.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>She goes on to illustrate how a reaction she had to someone else lashing out towards her, and said this:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI am still lovable, adequate, powerful, accepted, valuable, blameless, and honored.  And I have to answer from that point of view.  If I answer from the place of pain and hurt, where I believe that I&#8217;m unlovable, inadequate, powerless, rejected, worthless, at fault, and useless, then I will lash out in anger or withdraw in depression.  Neither of those is going to get me anywhere.  When I work from the point of view of my own strength, then I&#8217;m able to move the process forward.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>It just makes so much sense.  I\u2019ve lost some good friends in the past due to email fights and differing points of view. Maybe, had I responded differently, instead of out of anger, things would be different.  Then again, this concept of taking a deep breath and answering from a place of love and self-worth instead of anger and worthlessness can be applied to my daily life.  My self-worth should not, and does not, come from how I am seen in the neighborhood.  In fact, the whole goal of FLYlady\u2019s system is to FLY \u2013 Finally Love Yourself.  How can I FLY if I allow other\u2019s words and actions to bring me down?<\/p><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>An online buddy recently wrote this to our email list:\u201cSee, when I get upset and rant about something, it usually means that one of my own hurts has been triggered.\u201d &#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-42","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-deep-thoughts"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack-related-posts":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/yuriar.com\/katp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/42","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/yuriar.com\/katp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/yuriar.com\/katp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yuriar.com\/katp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yuriar.com\/katp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=42"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/yuriar.com\/katp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/42\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/yuriar.com\/katp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=42"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yuriar.com\/katp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=42"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yuriar.com\/katp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=42"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}