Last Monday night (3\/14), I watched Nanny911 on fox\u2026 mostly because watching the show makes me appreciate how well behaved my kids truly are\u2026 but I saw a few things that really hit home with me\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cIf you implement rules and order, the CHAOS will disappear and you will have more time\u2026\u201d Nanny Deb (My FLYing friends ought to get a kick out of this one! FLYlady has been teaching me this for years with my routines and shiny sink\u2026)<\/p>\n
Communication is the key\u2026 set up rules of the house, and be consistent! — the biggest thing I saw here was that mom and dad needed to communicate better, and not talk down to each other\u2026.<\/p>\n
I have been soooo sick and tired of the constant screaming around here. I always told myself growing up I would not yell constantly like my mom did. And a few weeks ago I was writing about being an angry mom, and how I want to change that\u2026 So I tried an experiment last week. I sat down with DH and decided on a set of rules, sort of like the ones Nanny Deb set. No whining, No screaming, No hitting, obey mom and dad. Importantly, we also set up punishments for breaking each rule. Then instead of just yelling at the kids to stop screaming, I got in there and explained to both of them how to use words to say what they want.<\/p>\n
I gotta tell you, it\u2019s working. The kids are happier, momma is happier. There is still some screaming, but it\u2019s easier to stop the screaming now just by gently reminding the screamer to use his\/her words. I\u2019ve also made a real effort to get off the computer when the kids wake up. It\u2019s helping a great deal\u2026 I do still catch myself ready to blow occasionally. But now that I can recognize the feelings, it\u2019s easier to get control of it.<\/p>\n
We\u2019re still not perfect\u2026. But at least my voice doesn\u2019t hurt at the end of the day anymore. *S* even dd2\u2019s tempers in the bad chair are getting shorter since she\u2019s learning that she has to wait til the timer beeps (I set it for 1 minute for dd2, 2 for ds4)<\/p>\n
I think a lot of this is stemming from the realization that has sunk in that they are only this young once, and there will not be another child in the house. I\u2019m not regretting my tubal\u2026. But I\u2019ve realized that this is it! If I miss it now, I\u2019ll never have another chance to live these moments, and enjoy the kids\u2026 you know what I mean?? Almost daily, the thought hits me that they will only be this age once. That poem, Babies don\u2019t keep, jumps into my mind abt once a week.. I really have to scrap it or something\u2026.<\/p>\n
Just figured I\u2019d share our progress\u2026<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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